Is sexting a sin?

“Sexting” is obscene texting. It is the act of sending sexually explicit messages and/or photographs, usually between mobile phones. Sexting has become so prevalent that, in August 2012, the word sexting was listed for the first time in Merriam-Webster’s Collegiate Dictionary.

Some people view sexting as harmless. After all, there are only a few words and maybe some pictures involved. It’s not as if people are actually committing adultery or fornication, right?

Matthew 5:28 says, “I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” This moral concept also applies to how women look at men, and Jesus clearly equates lust with adultery here. So the fact that “only words or pictures are involved” is obviously immaterial to God. What matters is what is in our hearts. Colossians 3:5 warns us to “put to death” whatever belongs to our earthly nature, including sexual immorality, impurity, lust, and evil desires.

Galatians 5:19–21 reveals the severe consequences of disobedience in this matter: “The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity . . . and the like. I warn you, as I did before, that those who live like this will not inherit the kingdom of God.”

But what about sexting between a married couple? Technically, sexting between a husband and his wife would not be a sin, since a satisfying sex life is a gift God gives to married couples. However, it is still ill-advised. We never know who might read our messages or view our pictures. It’s possible that someone may happen to see nude photos of your spouse over your shoulder, and this may cause lust in that person as a result. Sound unlikely? James 1:14–15 says, “Each person is tempted when they are dragged away by their own evil desire and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.”

Given recent revelations concerning government surveillance of cellular telephone and internet traffic, as well as the ability of hackers to intercept personal communications, we should be careful in our use of phones and web-enabled devices. Even if we’re not sexting, we still face the problems of identity theft and data privacy.

It’s best to follow the advice of 1 Corinthians 10:31, “So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God.”


Is cyber sex / phone sex a sin?

The Bible nowhere mentions cyber sex or phone sex, obviously, because “cyber-anything” and “phone-anything” were not possible in Bible times. The Word of God does give us some principles that apply to activities such as cyber sex and phone sex. Philippians 4:8 tells us, “Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.”

There are many Scriptures which indicate that sex outside of marriage is a sin (Acts 15:20; Romans 1:29; 1 Corinthians 5:1; 6:13,18; 7:2; 10:8; 2 Corinthians 12:21; Galatians 5:19; Ephesians 5:3; Colossians 3:5; 1 Thessalonians 4:3; Jude 7). Jesus Himself taught us that to desire something that is sinful is also sinful: “You have heard that it was said, ‘Do not commit adultery.’ But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart” (Matthew 5:27-28). Proverbs 23:7 says, “For as he thinks within himself, so he is.”

Cyber sex and phone sex are, in essence, desiring something that is sinful (fornication or adultery). Cyber sex and phone sex are fantasizing about that which is immoral and impure. In no sense could cyber sex or phone sex be considered noble, right, pure, lovely, admirable, excellent, or praiseworthy. Cyber sex and phone sex are virtual adultery. They are fantasizing about a person lustfully and encouraging another person into immoral lust. They lead a person into the trap of “ever-increasing wickedness” (Romans 6:19). A person who is immoral in his/her mind and desires will eventually become immoral in his/her actions. Yes, cyber sex and phone sex are most definitely sins!

What does the Bible say about bestiality?

The Bible mentions bestiality in four different passages. Exodus 22:19 says, “Anyone who has sexual relations with an animal must be put to death.” Leviticus 18:23 declares, “Do not have sexual relations with an animal and defile yourself with it. A woman must not present herself to an animal to have sexual relations with it; that is a perversion.” Leviticus 20:15-16 commands, “If a man has sexual relations with an animal, he must be put to death, and you must kill the animal. If a woman approaches an animal to have sexual relations with it, kill both the woman and the animal. They must be put to death; their blood will be on their own heads.” Deuteronomy 27:21 agrees, “Cursed is the man who has sexual relations with any animal.” From these verses, it is abundantly clear that, according to the Bible, bestiality is a horrible, unnatural, and abominable sin.

Why is bestiality condemned so strongly? First, it is an unnatural perversion. Clearly, human beings were designed/intended to mate with other human beings, not animals. In the creation account, none of the animals were “suitable” for Adam (Genesis 2:20). Second, bestiality represents the ultimate of sexual deviancy. The fact that the animal was to be put to death (Leviticus 20:15-16), despite the fact that it would be “innocent,” indicates how wickedly perverse bestiality is. Third, and perhaps most importantly, bestiality essentially denies the uniqueness of humanity which God created in His image (Genesis 1:27). Bestiality lowers humanity to nothing more than an animal, a beast which is unable to distinguish right from wrong, natural from unnatural, love from lust.

The New Testament nowhere mentions bestiality, but that should not be interpreted as an allowance for bestiality or a weakening of how strongly God condemns bestiality. While the Old Testament Law was fulfilled with the death and resurrection of Jesus Christ (Romans 10:4; Galatians 3:23-25; Ephesians 2:15), the Law, in most instances, is still a guidepost for what is right or wrong, moral or immoral. Unlike some of the other Old Testament commands, there is nothing in the context of the biblical condemnations of bestiality that in any way limits the applicability to Israel as a nation or to any particular time period. While the death-penalty aspect of the command does not need to be enforced, the fact that bestiality is still a horrible, disgusting, perverted, and abominable sin is abundantly clear.

What does the Bible say about feminism?

This question is especially important to Christian women. Does the Word of God address feminism? The modern concept of feminism was not present during the time that the Bible was written, but that does that mean that the Bible has nothing to say on the basic issues of feminism. Even when the Scriptures seem to be silent on something that affects us today, there are eternal principles that speak to the underlying issue.

What are the issues of feminism? Feminism is a counterfeit solution to the real issue of the inequality of women in a sinful society. Feminism arrogates to itself the right to demand respect and equality in every aspect of life. Feminism is based in arrogance, and it is the opposite of the call to the born-again believer to be a servant. The actions of the modern, militant feminists are geared to cause women to rise up and rebel against the order that God has given to mankind. That brand of feminism seeks to impose humanistic solutions that are in direct opposition to the Word of God. Feminism was originally a positive movement, focused on giving women the basic rights God intends for every human being to have. Tragically, feminism has gone past those roots to focus on destroying any trace of a distinction in roles between men and women.

What then should be the view of a Christian about feminism? A believing woman, who is seeking to obey God and walk in peace and grace, should remember that she has equal access to all spiritual blessings in Christ. “There is neither Jew nor Greek, slave nor free, male nor female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus” (Galatians 3:28). A believing woman should not allow herself to be a pawn in the worldly agenda of the feminist movement. Men and women have a God-given privilege to fulfill the plan He has set for us. Rebellion against that plan and the arrogance that seeks to put self above God’s Word result in very difficult consequences. We see those consequences in the destruction of the relationship between husbands and wives, the destruction of the family, and the loss of respect for human life.

“For everything in the world—the cravings of sinful man, the lust of his eyes and the boasting of what he has and does—comes not from the Father but from the world” (1 John 2:16). The principles of the fall are present in this verse. Eve believed the lie that eating the fruit would bring her wisdom. She lusted and she took or arrogated to herself something that was forbidden. This is the basis for the feminist movement. Women have bought into the lie that feminism will bring them what they want, what they think that they “deserve.” However, the promise is empty for the premise is based in pride and pride goes before a fall. “Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall” (Proverbs 16:18).

In the last decades, there has been the rise of a society that is so concerned with political correctness and so sensitive to being “offended” that civility has lost its way. However, this is really nothing new for there has always been inequality in the world. It is sad but true that artificial barriers that have no basis in God’s Word have always divided humanity. There is only one race—the human race! Within that race are male and female, different ethnicities, different colors, and different national origins. It is sin in the heart that causes inequality. It is sin in the heart that causes men to treat women in ways that are meant to demean. It is sin that sets one person above another. And it is sin that seeks to use counterfeit solutions to counteract these inequalities. The only true cure for inequality is obedience to God’s Word. If men and women would walk in obedience to God’s Word, feminism would be unmasked for what it is, and the harmony that God has ordained for the relationship between men and women would result.

Feminization – A Common Desire for Many Men

Surprisingly many men have intense desires to dress and act like women. This  does not automatically mean that they are homosexual (although some are). For  example, some of them have wives or girlfriends, whereas others are waiting to  go through a sex-change operation before having penetrative sex.

However, many men with these feelings can feel embarrassed, shy or plain  scared to let people know. A man may be afraid of the reactions he may get from  his wife or girlfriend, friends, or work-mates. He may find confessing this to a  religious figure would bring scorn or condemnation.

Yet, he would not be doing anything wrong. He is not harming anyone. This man  merely has different feelings and desires. Just as it would be unhelpful to  condemn or criticize someone who prefers, say, tennis to football, so it is  equally unhelpful to judge a person’s feelings for what is known as  “feminization”.

What is feminization?

Feminization is the process of changing a man’s behavior,  feelings and even thought patterns into that of a woman. Although the process is  never fully complete, a man can, with practice and support, change into an  apparently real and convincing woman.

To make this conversion fully, a man needs to overcome some real obstacles.  This includes his upbringing, any subconscious blocks, and maybe a lifetime’s  habit of doing things in a man’s way.

Not everyone realizes that the subconscious exerts a powerful control over  how a person behaves and feels. By aligning one’s subconscious (and unconscious)  beliefs, one can generate new behaviors and feelings that feel automatic and  natural.

Feminization is no different. In achieving this, a man would no longer have  to “fake” being a woman, but could move confidently through the world in a  feminine way. Adding the right clothes would turn him into a convincing  woman.

Naturally, practice is one way to make new ways of life automatic, natural  and unconscious. This means that if we do something often enough, it becomes as  automatic as, say, blinking.

How can a man speed up this feminization process? Well, hypnosis is specially  designed to work directly with a person’s unconscious mind. By utilizing  hypnosis, any process — including feminization — will be greatly speeded up.  We would call this feminization hypnosis.

In summary:

When a man has feelings of wanting to be a woman, this is common and should  be accepted. The man can fully engage these feelings and speed them up through a  process of feminization hypnosis, quickly and naturally  becoming the woman he wants to be.

What happens when men don’t act masculine and women don’t act feminine?

Masculine and feminine are terms often equated with the biological equivalent of male and female, or social equivalent of man and woman. But in realty, the distinction between masculine and feminine goes far beyond biological, psychological and psychosexual constructs. It transcends cultural, religious and societal notions of male and female, man and woman.

The masculine and feminine, the yin and yang, the anima and animus by definition are consciousness or energies we each possess in equal amounts — men and woman alike. Each of these energies is like one side of a coin. Neither is more or less important than the other – they both are very necessary dimensions of our human being-ness.

Each of us, men and woman alike can (and often do) express these two energies; only the emphasis, degree, quantity and relation to each other are different. Masculine energy is primarily emphasized in how we operate our outer world and primarily expressed by action, force, movement and firmness. Feminine energy on the other hand, is primarily pronounced in how we operate our inner world and primarily expressed by fluidity, creativity, sensitivity, introspection, and nurturing.
The quantity of energy we express (at any one time) bestows on us a masculine or feminine persona/traits. The family, culture, religion and society we’re raised in greatly influences which energy we express more of, when and how.

Traditionally, boys who are naturally physically stronger and more physically adept are often encouraged to express more of the masculine energy serving to reinforce a sense of masculinity. We see this abundance of masculine energy out on the playground with little boys kicking things and pushing one another, challenging and expanding their outer world. Battles over who is stronger and more physically adept further serve to reinforce their sense of masculinity.

A man (or woman) whose sense of masculinity is not fully developed or is weak, is unable to take lead, to direct, to trust himself, to take risks and to move into the world around him with self-confidence. He has lots of fears and doubts; fears and doubts about himself and his ability to operate his outer world. But most importantly, he is afraid to put himself out there because he somehow thinks his lack of “masculinity” will be obvious to others. In some instances he’ll put on a “macho” persona to mask his fears and doubts.

Most families, cultures, religions and societies on the other hand encourage girls to express more of the feminine energy serving to reinforce a sense of femininity. We see this abundance of feminine energy in little girls found sitting around grooming each other, relating intimately and showing concern for each other’s feelings and well-being.

A woman (or man) whose sense of femininity is not fully developed or is weak, is selfish and self-seeking. Instead of creating a safe, supportive and nurturing space, she controls and interferes with the lives of others (especially the man in her life). She has a hard time allowing others (spouse, children and close social networks) choose their own obligations and own path or direction in life without being manipulated or hindered by her. She’s more concerned with her own well-being than the well-being of others.

Masculine energy though encouraged in women and more expressed by men must also exist in a woman for that woman to be well adjusted and balanced. Likewise, feminine energy though encouraged in women and more expressed by women must also exist in a man for that man to be well adjusted and balanced. An imbalanced and disharmony in our masculine and feminine energies can have enormous consequences on a variety of levels.

When our masculine and feminine energies are not complementing each other but are instead interfering with one another, we feel confusion and unrest, incompleteness and a disconnection within ourselves and with out outer world (including our relationships with others). But when the energies are well adjusted and harmoniously balanced we feel more connected, in harmony, at peace and whole within ourselves and with out outer world (including our relationships with others).

Masculine energy without the feminine energy to balance it off can cause a person to be cold, insensitive and emotionally closed off, reckless, wasteful, overly critical and aggressive (even physically violent). Most men and women who express too much of the masculine energy find themselves too outwardly-focused and out of synch with their own deepest feelings and the feelings of others because they lack that feminine energy that drives fluidity, creativity, sensitivity, introspection, supportiveness and nurturing.
Feminine energy without the masculine energy to balance it off can cause a person to be too timid, too passive, superficial, compliant, clingy and needy, unable to make decisions, overly dependent, vulnerable to exploitation and abuse. Most men and women who express too much of the feminine energy find themselves too inwardly-focused and unable to move forward in their lives. They stop engaging and challenging their outer worlds and instead go too far into their inner worlds and sometimes find themselves stuck because they lack that masculine energy that drives action, force, movement and firmness.
Men and women must express both aspects of these energies if they want to live happy, productive and fulfilling lives all by ourselves or with a partner.

Once you begin to think about this and look at life with the acknowledge that both energies are operating within you, you will appreciate your own dual conciseness more. As a man, you can afford to express your feminine energy without feeling a threat to your masculinity because your masculinity is already strong and developed. And as a woman, you can afford to express your masculine energy without feeling a threat to your femininity because your femininity is already strong and developed.