Feminization – A Common Desire for Many Men

Surprisingly many men have intense desires to dress and act like women. This  does not automatically mean that they are homosexual (although some are). For  example, some of them have wives or girlfriends, whereas others are waiting to  go through a sex-change operation before having penetrative sex.

However, many men with these feelings can feel embarrassed, shy or plain  scared to let people know. A man may be afraid of the reactions he may get from  his wife or girlfriend, friends, or work-mates. He may find confessing this to a  religious figure would bring scorn or condemnation.

Yet, he would not be doing anything wrong. He is not harming anyone. This man  merely has different feelings and desires. Just as it would be unhelpful to  condemn or criticize someone who prefers, say, tennis to football, so it is  equally unhelpful to judge a person’s feelings for what is known as  “feminization”.

What is feminization?

Feminization is the process of changing a man’s behavior,  feelings and even thought patterns into that of a woman. Although the process is  never fully complete, a man can, with practice and support, change into an  apparently real and convincing woman.

To make this conversion fully, a man needs to overcome some real obstacles.  This includes his upbringing, any subconscious blocks, and maybe a lifetime’s  habit of doing things in a man’s way.

Not everyone realizes that the subconscious exerts a powerful control over  how a person behaves and feels. By aligning one’s subconscious (and unconscious)  beliefs, one can generate new behaviors and feelings that feel automatic and  natural.

Feminization is no different. In achieving this, a man would no longer have  to “fake” being a woman, but could move confidently through the world in a  feminine way. Adding the right clothes would turn him into a convincing  woman.

Naturally, practice is one way to make new ways of life automatic, natural  and unconscious. This means that if we do something often enough, it becomes as  automatic as, say, blinking.

How can a man speed up this feminization process? Well, hypnosis is specially  designed to work directly with a person’s unconscious mind. By utilizing  hypnosis, any process — including feminization — will be greatly speeded up.  We would call this feminization hypnosis.

In summary:

When a man has feelings of wanting to be a woman, this is common and should  be accepted. The man can fully engage these feelings and speed them up through a  process of feminization hypnosis, quickly and naturally  becoming the woman he wants to be.

Why he never tells you how he feels!

If I’ve heard it once, I’ve heard it a thousand times. Women everywhere seem to say the same thing about their male partners and it goes like this: ‘He just shuts off to emotion! He never tells me how he is feeling!’ Or ‘He’ll leave the room and refuse to talk about it!’

So when Rosemary, a friend of mine, started telling me about the difficulties she was having with her partner, I listened sympathetically and let her pour out her frustration without telling her that I had heard it all before. And when she finally came to a stop, I began to explain why so many men are uncomfortable exploring their feelings and why this is a good thing!

I think I had her full attention.

Going quiet – emotional upset versus problem solving

Male friends have told me they hate it when a woman asks them during a quiet moment: ‘What are you thinking?’ Women find this a natural question because women tend to go quiet when they feel hurt or lied to. If a man is quiet, a women may assume his silence indicates that he is upset. Men, on the other hand, stop communicating when they have a problem to solve.

Understanding better how your partner processes emotions can clear up misunderstandings and bring greater tolerance into your relationship. The fact is that men and women are different in more than just the obvious physical ways.

Emotional arousal is bad for male health

This all reminds me of the old song: ‘Why can’t a woman be more like a man?’ Except in this instance it’s: ‘Why can’t a man be more like a woman?’ There are things you need to know about how most men and women relate differently to emotions.

And a prime difference is that men have to protect themselves from emotional arousal for the sake of their health.

The 1970s therapeutic ideal was about ‘getting in touch with your feelings.’ However, more recent research shows that strong emotion – particularly for men – can be physically dangerous. Women used to be dismissively known as the ‘weaker sex’ – but in some ways men are actually more vulnerable. Women not only live longer but at every stage of life the male is more likely to die than the female. Even in infancy, premature boys are more likely to die than premature girls.

Rosemary was surprised and relieved to learn that there are sound reasons why her male partner may ‘button up’.

Men act, women talk

Firstly, men’s brains are wired for action during high emotion, whereas women’s brains are wired for talking things over. If a man instinctively knows his anger is likely to lead to action (and possibly regrettable violence) he may try to stop it going that far by putting a lid it on it. Or ‘clamming up’ as his partner may describe it.

Secondly, from an evolutionary perspective men would have had to shut off their emotions while out hunting, so over time it has become natural for them to do so.

But there is a third and even better reason why men typically may shut themselves off more from emotional arousal.

I’m out of here! – the male survival mechanism

In an emotionally-arousing situation, a man’s first instinct is to leave and calm down. This is partly due to how emotions affect men. They are a cue to physical action – the consequences of which could be terrible. If a man stays put and becomes very emotional, his blood pressure skyrockets and he is at risk of having a heart attack. It also takes much longer for a man’s blood pressure and immune system to return to normal after high emotion than it does for a woman. Therefore a man will instinctively try (without even knowing that this is what he is doing) to protect himself and escape the situation.

Young boys are more stressed by emotion than girls

This difference in male/female emotion processing is evident from a young age. Women need to be more tuned into their emotions than men because they are, more often, the ones who rear children (of course, this is a generalisation and there are always exceptions). One research study showed that young boys were much quicker to try to switch off a recording of a baby crying than young girls were. The researchers at first reasoned that this was because of male insensitivity. But it turned out that the boys had much higher levels of stress hormone in their bloodstreams than the girls did on hearing the emotionally arousing trigger. Men are actually more sensitive to emotion and so more likely to avoid it.

This gender difference persists through life and old men are much more likely to die soon after the loss of a partner than an elderly wife when she loses her husband.

Let’s have some understanding

The best way to relate to one another is for men to appreciate that a woman needs to off load sometimes and for a woman to know that a man may prefer to talk about practicalities rather than how he is feeling.

So a man, when he realises that his partner is upset or worried about something, can ask her if she would like to talk about it. But then he needs to resist the temptation to offer advice or tell her what to do! Just listen and affirm her feelings.

Conversely, a woman who notices something is up can think twice before asking that frightening question – ‘How do you feel?’ or before starting to say ‘I feel’. A good alternative might perhaps be to say ‘It might be a good idea if we do such-and-such about that – This makes it action orientated and therefore less threatening to her male partner. Remember strong emotion physically harms a man and is a cue to action rather than discussion.

Rosemary’s relief

As you can imagine, Rosemary felt much happier when she had grasped all this. She suggested that this difference accounts for why far more women than men seek therapy – because they are more comfortable discussing their emotions. Knowledge is power and Rosemary is now confident that her relationship can survive.